I’ve waited 2.5 years for this great news. That’s for how long we’ve been trying. and I gave up. I gave up trying and counting my monthly period and ovulation days. And then, we’re pregnant.
Now, I’ve survived the first trimester, the second trimester and now starting ok on my third. How fast time flies and there’s 11 more weeks before we finally meet her, InsyaAllah. 11 more weeks - how cool is that?
Are we ready?
For the past years, both our households (Mr.’s and mine) never had children. Only recently when my elder sister in law decided to stay at home and be a baby sitter that we have the opportunity of playing with 2 children - a 4-yr old girl and a 1.5-yr old boy.
And the news of us being pregnant makes it even more exciting cuz we’ll finally have someone ‘our own’. So now, it’s been months the children are at my SIL’s place. and once a while i hear them get scolded and disciplined. and other times funny stories.
Then, I realised it’s pretty easy to bring up a kid. You feed them and they’ll grow. But it’s definitely not easy to instill good values in them. How do you teach a kid not to lie? How can you be firm with a kid when they’re showing you such an adorable face? It’s not easy being a parent, a teacher… Not easy to cane your kid for the awful mistakes they made…
I remembered my earliest memories of how my parents taught me good values. I was 4 or 5 then and we had gold fishes for pets. I was feeding them and accidentally dropped the fish food and created a huge mess. Papa & Mama came into the room to see what happened.
Papa asked me: “Who made this mess?”
I replied: “Fish, Papa..”
and I thought I was smart to get away with not being scolded. Cause the fish will get scolding and what would they know, right..?
Papa asked me again, but this time around he raised his voice: “WHO MADE THIS MESS? AND DO NOT LIE TO ME.”
I paused for a moment to decide if i should really tell him honestly. So I finally said and cried: “Tuty, Papa….”
That’s when he said: “I scolded you not because you dropped the fish food, but because you lied. Now, go get a broom and clean up the mess.”
From then on, i dare not lie. It was truely a lesson learnt. try asking me a serious question, u’ll know I couldnt lie to your face. hahah i’mma bad liar!
All these while, when either of my parents discipline or scolded me, the other will not try to defend. I guess it’s a mutual understanding between Papa and Mama. Maybe also to show that no one will back you up when you do something wrong. hahah.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how i grew up and how i was brought up. the obvious and subtle ways that my parents taught me. How do I know how to be the person that I am now? The good values that they instill in me. How do they do that?
My fear now and the future, will Mr. and I be as good parents as our parents are to us?
*does a virtual star jump!*
YAY! i’m already in my third trimester 28weeks, 7 months! ……… I look and feel like an elephant. Physically, I’ve changed and ‘evolved’ so much.. hmm let’s see: the tummy is now protruding out of me in a very pregnant way. I get comments almost everyday about how BIG my tummy looks. Often, strangers asked me if I’m gng on maternity soon. Erm, no.. I just started my 28th week so technically, I have another 12weeks to go before Baby Maiya is ready. My hands and feet are puffy with the water retention problems. I hope they don’t get worst because there’s frequent numbness and I feel really clumsy. Not to mention, the backaches.. pft.
I think Baby Maiya has grown again since the last time I blogged. Well, she shld! hahah and her pushes beneath my tummy are so much harder and fiercer now. She moves more actively and often dance around whenever I’m listening to pop music. those can be quite cute. During night time, when i turn to sleep on my right and I said ‘Good night..’, she will always give me a push. not too sure if that’s to respond to my night wish or to tell me not to sleep yet or to tell me that i’m squashing her and she has less room to roam around in there! hahahha.
These past 6 months has been a joy. The pregnancy’s been a wonderful experience. Yes, there were those weeks of viruses, illnesses, morning sicknesses but I feel blessed. I’m always guarded by loved ones. they hold my hand when i take the stairs or escalator.. they hold me when crossing the road or when the floor is wet. I really appreciate the attention and the extra help. I feel like I am still capable but not really, i’m super clumsy now.. not that I want to but because it’s just like that. =/
Mr. and I spoke about the personality of Baby Maiya. These are based on both our personalities and also our behaviours for the period when we started knowing that we were expecting till now.
Baby Maiya may be…..
- short tempered (I was short tempered at work during the first weeks of pregnancy)
- happy and cheerful (this is just my personality)
- alert (this is Mr.’s traits)
- very firm and focused (I will re-enforce what I believed in and will not stray)
- Jealous (this is Mr.’s traits cuz I’ve been thinking of things that I usually do not. Personally, it’s alien and tiring for me.)
but oh well, we can only assume.. =)
Yes, yes I spoke about this before but never as a title on my blog entry. Thank you to those surrounding me, who loves me and who fed me good food. Especially during my first trimester when all the Baby’s vital organs are forming.
Papa fed me a lot of fishes - went on and on about Omega 3 and how that’s so good for the Baby’s brain. Which, btw, I gladly pushed down my throat! I ate a lot more fish dishes during these pregnancy months than when I wasnt pregnant.
Today, I went to visit the Gynae again and was shocked to know that I had gained 3kg from my last check up, 5 weeks ago! and in total from when I knew I was pregnant, I gained 10kg! So, for the sake of remembering these details AFTER i deliver.. here are the stats:
Date: 12 Jan, 2010
Weight: 60kg (from 57kg)
Baby’s weight: 727grams (from 352grams)
My 2 new-mummies colleagues admitted that their memory got worse after the delivery of their babies. And to think that ‘Pregnancy Brain’ only last during the 9 months you’re carrying the baby! LOL.
I’ve been remembering stuffs, so far.. until last Friday! Mr. asked if I know my parents NRIC numbers and I confidently said I do. So when he asked me (hours later) over msn what my parents’ NRIC are.. I went *blank*. my mind totally couldnt remember ANYTHING! it took me about 5 mins to try to juggle the numbers and get them right!
I told Mr. about this and he said we shld start eating fish dishes again. haha. i dun mind. not at all! give me fish - anytime!
It’s the first week of January 2010. and I’m 24 weeks now (6 months). The last month was hell in terms of workload and work relations. Though I love my workplace and the campaigns and the people to bits, I just cant help feeling tired and drained working on the same campaign year after year. Well, especially not with one hypocritical, manupulative monster as my temporary boss!
All that is over now when my actual boss came back from her maternity leave. phew! 2 days ago, I read my weekly pregnancy newsletter update on the development on the fetus. It said that the baby is still growing internally, her brain is still developing - which means I have to eat healthily for the next 3 weeks! Her skin is still very soft and fragile.. and if she were to be born now (insyaAllah not), she will only have 44% chances of survival.. so sit tight, enjoy growing and wait till full term and water bag burst ok! The newsletter also state that at this point, my sweet tooth has emerged and the craving for sweets & desserts has started. This is so true! =D
Last weekend I went to the zoo with another friend and she’s also pregnant. She’s 1 month ahead of me and she’s carrying a boy. The irony? my 6-months pregnant stomach with a girl IS EVEN BIGGER than her 7-months pregnant stomach with a boy! and THAT scares me! Have I been stuffing my face with junk or have I been eating tooooo much? erk. *worried look*
My department director had given birth (c-sec) on Monday 4 Jan and she shared with me that she gained 5kg in her last 4 weeks before she delivered her baby girl, Jo-En. And only 300grams of that goes to the baby! *GASP* I’m gaining an average of 1.4kg a month for the last 5 months and i’m afraid…. I’m very afraid…! As of my last check up at 20 weeks, I gained 7kg from the original weight. My next check up is next week at 25 weeks and I’m excited yet nervous to find out how much I’ve gained since the last check up. *bites nail*
But aside from the weight worries and the after math of delivery and how to gain back my figure, weight and beauty…. I’m a happy mommy-to-be. =D I’m very thrilled at the thought of having a little someone to sing to, to read to, to cradle to, and to kiss to. A little someone to set my eyes upon and all my worries are gone. sigh.
And I’ve got a fair share of ‘advertisements’ before the grand finale! With Reg delivering to Kaye-En, followed by Jen delivering Yu Xuan, then Anna delivering Emmanuel and recently Chern with Jo-En. With all these little angels around.. I cant wait for April to come quick. I, too, wanna have my own bundle of joy!
I know it’s a week late but HAPPY NEW YEAR to everyone out there. And may 2010 bring you better luck, better health and many many beautiful and happy memories. I know my 2010 is going to be just fine. =)